Luxmoore Nick: Ljutnja i bes tinejdžera

Nick Luxmoore: Anger and rage of teenagers

How to hear, recognize and control the anger and rage of young people

What messages do adolescents send us with their anger and rage and why is it important to hear these messages?  Why should anger not be suppressed? How to work with irritable, unpredictable and angry young people?  Why is it important to hear the anger of young people and accept its existence? How can we recognize when anger is just a mask and defense against painful feelings and when young people use anger as protection and to avoid attacks? This is a book about working with that anger, not against it, a book about listening to anger, says Nick Luxmoore, author. It is a big challenge for parents, but also for educators who face their own anger in parallel, anger in themselves and when, in a way, they "absorb" the anger of young people.

"Anger is healthy. Anger is passion, resilience, it means being alive, participating. Anger is sometimes a moral reaction to a situation. It triggers creativity. It is effective. Of course, the way anger is expressed is extremely important: breaking things, being violent, hitting and swearing at others is neither a healthy nor an acceptable way to express anger" - writes Nick Luxmoore in the introduction to the book. However, why have these become the only ways for some young people to express their anger when it seems that no one hears them?

Although this is a book about ways of working with anger in order to support young people, the author does not believe that angry behavior should be condoned and approved, because when expressed as violence it hurts people. We also make mistakes when we take anger for granted, as a simple threat or rebellion, and do not listen to what is behind it. We reject it and punish it, because we are afraid of it or do not understand it, and there are often good reasons for young people's anger, and they often use it as a mask and defense against much more painful feelings. sadness...

● Why do we often and lightly regard the anger of young people as simple hostility, rebellion or a threat?

● How do teachers face their anger and what can they do with it?

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I think the way to progress is not to banish anger from schools, but to create space for its safe expression, to recognize it as a completely justified emotion, as an opportunity, not as a threat. As an opportunity to safely express strong feelings so that they do not accumulate in young people and explode uncontrollably.

Nik Laksmur, author