Haug-Schnabel Gabriele: Agresivnost u dječjem vrtiću

Gabriele Haug-Schnabel: Aggressiveness in Kindergarten

From the book In Kindergarten, a child gains experience with his peers, so he will certainly face aggression there, regardless of the experience he has gained in the family. The child sees aggression in others or the aggression is directed towards him. Along the way, the child realizes, as soon as experiences with the same course, and especially with the same outcome, begin to be repeated, when aggressiveness "pays off". Because the child learns by observing others, then he learns by imitating them, and finally he learns through his own experience and numerous situations in which it is advantageous to act aggressively in order to achieve the desired goal. The child also learns, already according to the outcome of the event, that it is better to behave differently next time, because otherwise, before he can figure it out, he will lose the toy car, the place on the swing or the sympathy of the children he plays with. It also learns that it is better to act differently the second time, because the teacher will always interfere with such actions. Aggression is a part of children's everyday life, as well as singing, playing, laughing and trying out new toys, because aggression is part of human behavior. Kindergarten should be a haven that provides security and protection, a place that complements the family when it comes to gaining experience, but it must also provide an opportunity to establish contacts with adults and with other children in whom there is more and more trust.. Kindergarten is not a place where there are no conflicts. And it is normal that it is so. Only in such a situation can one learn that conflicts and overcoming them are a part of human life and that conflicts do not have to represent a disaster, but that life together is possible even after cursing, insults and "licking wounds" when some time passes and when sympathetic people intervene. It also means that he will come to know compromise as a magical tool. It also gives you the experience that it's not so terrible to sometimes give in and give something up, even though it seems humiliating at first. There is also the possibility to experience the outcome of the conflict on your own skin: a wonderful feeling of victory, the feeling that your opinion has been confirmed and that you have imposed it with good reasons in mind.